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At 27, I now have the tools, knowledge, and wisdom necessary to enjoy a successful and peaceful lifestyle as a bachelor -- for life
The beginning
I grew up naive and misinformed. From a young age, I'd already decided that I wanted to live a good and honest life. This included becoming a family man, loving husband, and great role model to future offspring. Unfortunately, I wasn't prepared for the hell I'd face as a teenager and adult.
The problem
I treated women how I desired to be treated: With respect. You'd think this type of treatment would reward you handsomely, but was I ever wrong. I viewed women of interest as perfect beings. They placed the bait, and slowly, I followed. Eventually, you've grown to admire and respect someone so much, until reality comes crashing down: Their intent was never genuine to begin with.
I did not understand that words weren't always golden. People will lie, and with a straight face. This was hard to register, and something that confused me for years. Still, I continued making the same mistakes and finding myself in the same predicament: Hurt and confused.
The impact
Depression, loss of wages, isolation, etc. What few women realize is that men suffer greatly in toxic relationships. Contrary to popular belief, men are not made of steel. While it is true that we are the strongest gender physically, it's not so emotionally. When a man loves a woman, and he's taken for granted by her, the experience greatly impacts his life.
For the 10 years I spent on this roller coaster of dealing with different women, I estimate a financial impact of at least $50,000 -- money that could be in my bank account today. Flights, car rentals, a vehicle purchase, meals, and ignorance all proved too costly. I was deaf, dumb, and blind.
Reformed, reinforced
The past three years were a critical lesson for me. It helped to jolt my senses, and awaken me to the atrocities honest men were facing in North America. They weren't being rewarded for their loyalty, honesty, or love. Instead, they were being punished by a new generation of women who were being raised in a disconnected culture bred of entitlement and selfish values. This reality became apparent to me (only this year) after facing several disheartening experiences. The writing is on the wall.
After more than 10 years of making mistakes with women, I've finally graduated to a new phase in my life:
Single, for life
Our culture and society is on a decline. We are failing to teach our children sound values, self-respect and love. MTV, BET, and other negative media are serving as mentors and guidance counselors to our society. Young men and women have fewer resources for positive enlightenment about sex, love, and the "nuclear family".
Our failure to encourage and inspire healthy lifestyles for our children are evident in their choices today. Promiscuity is through the roof, and few teens and young adults are interested in monogamous relationships today. It's not a compelling reason to hold out for something that will only worsen as time goes on.
What does this all mean? I'll never get married. There are few incentives today to do so. The institution of marriage is pointless and without merit. The divorce rate, coupled with an unhealthy society, are more than enough reasons to avoid it like a bad neighborhood. As for relationships? I've never been happy in one, so what's the point?
I am content with focusing on my life and goals. I sacrificed my life and happiness for several years, and now, this is my time. My pursuit of success will bring far more happiness and rewards than any woman or relationship ever could. I'll get a dog for companionship.
